[Andy]

In this video a Father posts a YouTube video in response to his Daughter's post on Facebook. I'll let you be the judge. [video]1955[/video]

 

[Matthew]

Saw this on the news this morning. I couldn't do anything but shake my head and facepalm. If your child is behaving in this manner at this age, then you didn't do a very good job raising them from youth. I hate using this phrase but wen i was a teenager, I had many things I WANTED to say and WANTED to do to my parents, but because of the manner in which I was raised, I learned that while my parents did indeed love me they also commanded respect from me. Sadly in my line of work, I see bad parenting all the time (I'm a cashier). The solution isn't taking a gun to the offending object, it's talking with the child to find out what the actual source of the problem really is and figuring out how to solve it. Way to destroy a 300 dollar minimum electronic device with what's probably five dollars worth of ammo Mr. Clampett.

 

[Trekwolf164]

Hey leave the guy alone he shot the Laptop. If he shot the daughter everyone would want him to do jail time. I never posted anything bad about my parents on my facebook page when I was in high school.

 

[davelau]

I have a strong feeling that it won't be then end to his problems.

 

[BanditSRT8]

Saw this on the news this morning. I couldn't do anything but shake my head and facepalm. If your child is behaving in this manner at this age, then you didn't do a very good job raising them from youth.

You clearly don't have any children. Teenagers behave like this regardless of parental input. And I applaud him for doing it. He clearly has dealt with her on regular terms to no avail... this was the next appropriate step.

 

[iabob]

Airing his family's dirty laundry by posting a video online seems like a bad way to teach the daughter not to post her family's dirty laundry online. Five bucks says that guy is not going to enjoy a meaningful relationship with his adult children.

 

[Matthew]

You clearly don't have any children. Teenagers behave like this regardless of parental input. And I applaud him for doing it. He clearly has dealt with her on regular terms to no avail... this was the next appropriate step.

Guess again....I have twin daughters 19, twin sons 18, and one son 15. Not ONCE have I ever had to do anything more than raise my voice to them. Are there times when discipline is necessary? Yes there are, but we talk things out. I find out how they feel, they find out how I feel. We figure out what the actual problem is. Putting bullets into a computer teaches the child nothing outside of adding yet ANOTHER reason to hate the parent. When the problem with the child gets to that point, it ISN'T the child's fault. We learn through our parents. There are behaviours that we as adults teach through our actions to our children that we do not teach them verbally. I have kids, they've been raised with honor, integrity and courage, not with fists, yells and bullets.

 

[BanditSRT8]

Not being sarcastic but, I sure would love to live in your world. Fact is teens are rebellious, and not every type of parenting will work for everyone. I'm lucky that I've not had to go to this extreme, and I doubt I would, but when talking, bargaining, teaching, then yelling and punishing don't work... sometimes a dramatic example works wonders.

 

[Matthew]

Not being sarcastic but, I sure would love to live in your world. Fact is teens are rebellious, and not every type of parenting will work for everyone. I'm lucky that I've not had to go to this extreme, and I doubt I would, but when talking, bargaining, teaching, then yelling and punishing don't work... sometimes a dramatic example works wonders.

Children are as individual and as unique as walking down the street in public. Make no mistake, my kids are a blessing and I know it, I remember the things that I did put my parents through. I've seen kids in public that would outright push me to do something like this to them, but then the mother and the father are usually on th cell phone not paying attention and they're giving the children the opportunity to do things like this. I watched and listed to the chores and the homework that the child acused the parents of putting her through (obviously exaggerated, bu the point is not lost) My kids were raised with understanding that if you do your housework and stay on top of it it shouldn't take more than a few minutes a day to clean up and keep the house nice (not museum clean). Each child in my household is in charge of their own room and keping it clean, along with a communal area of the house. My eldest daughter is in charge of the hardwood floors in the living room. If I, my spouse, or one of her siblings make a mess intentional or unintentional then it is her responsibility to inform us of such. It is our job to respect her responsibility and the area in which she's been put in charge of. The girls were fairly easy to raise in this manner, the boys have all been a little more difficult to raise (as it always seem that way) up until they started dating. It was actually the boys' girlfriends that got them straightened out regarding cleanliness because their ladies started ranting about their behaviours and cleanliness so myself, my wife and their romantic interests sat down and we spoke about how to solve this situation. It was agreed that they'd refuse to see the boys (outside of phone, email, and whatever other mediums) until the rooms were cleaned. It worked out very well. Do I occasionally get the backtalk? Yeah it happens as it always will when youth meets age. However, when their is an issue, it's talked out. I'm very fortunate to have the relationship with my children that I do and I thank God for it everyday. I just look back over the years and while yes there have been times when I've wanted to yell out in anguish, not once have I ever wanted nor felt the need to take a firearm to any posession they have.

 

[Trekwolf164]

Matthew's family ?

 

[bubba]

I have a strong feeling that it won't be then end to his problems.

His issue with her just started.... Very Sad

 

[bikendad]

After raising 3 boys I can say that what works with one probably won't with another. I have never destroyed their property but can say that defiance and disrespect can make you do some crazy things. I have one son in particular that all the talking to in the world made no difference in his behavior. I finally in desperation had to practice some very "tough love" and he hates me for it to this day, he's now 25 and doesn't associate with me. I will say he has straightened his life out to a great extent and without that tough love that may never have happened.

 

[Bullet]

After raising 3 boys I can say that what works with one probably won't with another. I have never destroyed their property but can say that defiance and disrespect can make you do some crazy things. I have one son in particular that all the talking to in the world made no difference in his behavior. I finally in desperation had to practice some very "tough love" and he hates me for it to this day, he's now 25 and doesn't associate with me. I will say he has straightened his life out to a great extent and without that tough love that may never have happened.

Agreed, no 2 people are the same and what works on one might be the exact opposite of what the other one needs. Good on ya for the tough love. Sad that he's not associating but sounds like he did end up straightening out his life. Hopefully when he has kids that are putting him through some tough times he'll remember and contact you. When he does "Thanks Dad" will be good to hear! As parents we do what we feel is necessary and hope for the best but we can't read minds. Sometimes we don't know what's going on completely in school, or at the skate park, or what happened at a "supervised" function over the weekend. With cell phones, computers, facebook, texting, etc. It can be difficult to monitir all things all the time.

 

[clif02]

Every child is different. All 3 of my daughters raised the same. The oldest never gave me an ounce of trouble, the middle one rebelled a little bit but getting her back under control was easily done. The youngest one gave me fits all through her teenage years. You could have beat her with a 2x4 every day and I doubt it would have changed her. So...I took EVERYTHING away from her...phone, car, TV, removed the door to her bedroom because she was so fond of slamming it and so on. I can't fault this father and his frustration. I would not have shot the computer though nor would I have made it public. But...he did what he thought was right in rebutting her nasty little comments publicly in the same forum. Kids do need to learn there are some things you just should not do.

 

[Bullet]

For the record some of her statements were the most disrespectful things I've heard from a kid towards their parents. Yes at 15 she is still a damn kid! Mojority of people making comments on Yahoo feel Daddy has anger issues, went overboard and it's all his fault for poor parenting. I completely disagree. He was so mad he was vibrating and messing up his speech. Then had to collect his thoughts to carry on. I think he handled his anger quite well. Not gonna lie....had my kid written that I'd be pissed too. He has punished her in the passed for the same sort of thing so apparently she ain't learnin'! What is a parent to do when pushed to limits or when you come to your wits end? There's something to be said for shock value! Bet she never forgets this one.

 

[Bullet]

Children are as individual and as unique as walking down the street in public. Make no mistake, my kids are a blessing and I know it, I remember the things that I did put my parents through. I've seen kids in public that would outright push me to do something like this to them, but then the mother and the father are usually on th cell phone not paying attention and they're giving the children the opportunity to do things like this. I watched and listed to the chores and the homework that the child acused the parents of putting her through (obviously exaggerated, bu the point is not lost) My kids were raised with understanding that if you do your housework and stay on top of it it shouldn't take more than a few minutes a day to clean up and keep the house nice (not museum clean). Each child in my household is in charge of their own room and keping it clean, along with a communal area of the house. My eldest daughter is in charge of the hardwood floors in the living room. If I, my spouse, or one of her siblings make a mess intentional or unintentional then it is her responsibility to inform us of such. It is our job to respect her responsibility and the area in which she's been put in charge of. The girls were fairly easy to raise in this manner, the boys have all been a little more difficult to raise (as it always seem that way) up until they started dating. It was actually the boys' girlfriends that got them straightened out regarding cleanliness because their ladies started ranting about their behaviours and cleanliness so myself, my wife and their romantic interests sat down and we spoke about how to solve this situation. It was agreed that they'd refuse to see the boys (outside of phone, email, and whatever other mediums) until the rooms were cleaned. It worked out very well. Do I occasionally get the backtalk? Yeah it happens as it always will when youth meets age. However, when their is an issue, it's talked out. I'm very fortunate to have the relationship with my children that I do and I thank God for it everyday. I just look back over the years and while yes there have been times when I've wanted to yell out in anguish, not once have I ever wanted nor felt the need to take a firearm to any posession they have.

Sounds like your kids are well mannered and respectful. Mine too but try dealing with a 16 year son old who is rebelling and thinks the world owes him something because cancer took his mother 2 years ago. My daughter becomes a teenager in April. I have to set examples now, no time for pussyfooting around, so I don't have to repeat myself. Dealing with issues as a single parent also changes how you handle things. I can't be my kids friend right now, that'll come when they have kids of their own and known what I'm going thru and what's involved in raising children. I only punish when absolutely necessary but it is harsh and quick. Point made and we all carry on....me the parent and them the kids.

 

[iabob]

For the record some of her statements were the most disrespectful things I've heard from a kid towards their parents. Yes at 15 she is still a damn kid! Mojority of people making comments on Yahoo feel Daddy has anger issues, went overboard and it's all his fault for poor parenting. I completely disagree. He was so mad he was vibrating and messing up his speech. Then had to collect his thoughts to carry on. I think he handled his anger quite well. Not gonna lie....had my kid written that I'd be pissed too. He has punished her in the passed for the same sort of thing so apparently she ain't learnin'! What is a parent to do when pushed to limits or when you come to your wits end? There's something to be said for shock value! Bet she never forgets this one.

There are four options available for behavior modification, or lesson teaching. Positive reward, negative reward, positive punishment, and negative punishment. In this sense a reward is something received, and a punishment is something lost. Positive is something desirable, negative is not. So by this man's own story this has happened before and she was grounded. Her freedom was removed = positive punishment. Apparently that didn't work and when she did the same thing again, so did he. Anybody think doing the same thing over again will bring about different results? The irony of the situation is he's posting a video online about how mad he is at his daughter. And whats he mad about? He's mad at her for acting just like him! Since positive punishment did not work last time a parent who steps back and analyzes the situation might try positive reward, negative reward, or negative punishment instead and see if that would successfully teach the lesson. Instead he's competing with his daughter to see who can be the biggest jerk. He will win the competition and lose his daughter in the process.

 

[RoBrown]

I don't condone what he did, but I understand. Rob

 

[ashmostro]

This father is an idiot. I agree with the poster that said things are probably going to get worse for him. Even if they don't legally or socially, he's now lost his moral authority by effectively losing his **** in response to his daughter acting like a teenager. Not a great role model. Not once in that video did he explain why the daughter is being asked to do those things. Not once does he explain that it is character-building, that if she doesn't do it now she won't be able to handle work and the real world. He's doing her a disservice by making about chest-puffing rather than an act of love and protection. He has no idea what he's doing, and how much worse he just made it.

 

[phoenix9]

I watched the video and while the "idea" is an attention grabber for both kids and parents alike, I think this was a good idea gone horribly wrong. This is definitely a case of "it sounded good in my brain..." 1st-I have no issue with shooting the laptop. She tried to embarass her parents and that backfired beyond her wildest dreams. 2nd-If the punishment of your child makes national news, you have really screwed up. 3rd-If gaining brownie points for yourself is more important than the actual lesson you are teaching your kid, then you might win the battle, but you will definitely lose the war. I have 2 boys and anyone who knows me well, knows that I am an incredibly strict disciplinarian. Even my kid's friends know that you don't mess with me. My boys won't cross me because they know they will lose each and every time, but I can tell you that any discipline is "in house". My kids love and respect me because I love and respect them.....and as "hard a$$" as I am, I also am smart enough to know that my kids deserve a level of respect as well....even when they are being dumba$$es. I give this guy an A for creativity, and an F for execution.